How do you talk dirty to a guy? Where should i start? What tone of voice should I use? How exactly should it sound coming from me? These are all questions that have been floating in the minds of many women. The truth of the matter is that learning to talk dirty to a guy is very simple and it doesn’t take years and years of practice, or experience, to do it correctly. And just to clear up a big mistake, there is NO “something perfect to say”. There is no magic line or phrase; everything works together and should flow naturally.
Let me tell you a secret: men are naturally fascinated by women. So from the very beginning, you start with a huge advantage and you already have our attention. Now, since you’re already starting at the top of the “pole of attraction,” let’s say about 100% natural attraction points, there are only two directions to move from this point: up or down. It is impossible to stay 100% over time, in the eyes of that “certain guy” you most want to keep hypnotized. As time passes, your attraction points will increase 100% or decrease with an uphill battle to return to 100% again. So how do you keep your “sexiness grade” from diminishing and possibly never going back to the 100% that initially caught their attention? Use seductive words and language strategically that will hold both their interest and their attention.
Let’s start with interest. Every man is different and therefore different things turn on different men … differently! What is your favorite female body part? Ask him! He would love to tell you: trust me. Once you find out, you can use that information to your advantage. Let’s say you love breasts. Well now you could say something like:
- Tonight I want you to grab my breasts and rub them as if it were the last time you were going to touch them (you will be surprised how passionate I would touch … the girls).
- I want you to suck them like crazy, until your mouth hurts.
- I want to feel your hot tongue sliding up and down my nipples until they are hard enough to explode.
- I want you to play with my chest until you can’t take it anymore.
What you are doing here is using your interest to enhance your dirty talk. Because you are targeting his “interest”, and including your breast – for the sake of this example – in your dirty talk, turns him on extremely well. This works all the time. Let’s try another example. Let’s say he’s a “leg man”. Then call him during the day and say things like:
- I called you because I was sitting here thinking of you kissing my legs tonight.
- I would really love to feel your hot lips kissing the inside of my thighs right now.
- And ohhh, your hands would feel so good rubbing my legs up and down as you kiss them.
- Tonight, I will get up, lean in front of you and I want you to kiss the back of my legs from the ankles to the bottom of the buttocks. I want him to slide his tongue up and down my legs until I ask him to stop.
That would definitely get his attention and excite him more than you can imagine. But remember, this is fundamentally effective because you are using your interest as the focus of your dirty talk. It’s not necessarily how you say it, it’s more about “what” are you saying and what “bait” are you using to lure him into your dirty talk.
Now let’s talk about improving your care. By targeting his interests, you will excite him. The second tactic you want to use is “visual communication.” Talking dirty is more than words. Why stop there when you can combine your body language to improve the things it tells you? Let’s use the “breast example” again.
- Wear a sexy, see-through, lace-up bedtime bra, anything that is partially see-through would work great here, and slowly rub your chest in front of it, while you’re still in the bra, and ask ‘can you give me a hand? with this? “Believe me, you would love it.
- Take her hand and place them on your chest and start rubbing your hands around your chest slowly. Ask him. “Do you like the way my breasts feel?”
- Ask her to remove her bra and when she does, grab her head and force her mouth over your nipples. Ask him, “Do you like how my nipples taste like Daddy?”
What you are doing is using your body language to highlight the dirty things you said to him and most importantly, you are giving him a “picture” of what you said to him. This is very powerful and does a lot to keep you on his mind, long after the night is over. Leaving him with an image of you rubbing his breast in that “sexy bra”, placing your hands on your breast and forcing him to caress and lick it, he will always have that memory permanently etched in his mind. This works wonders for keeping their attention and having thoughts about you in their head at all times.
In the “leg lover” example, find a pair of sexy thigh-high stockings to wear to bed (hint: something about fishnet stockings always yells “dirty” at a man. Fishnet stockings are a sure way to excite him – use at your own discretion). Try saying something like:
- Do you like my dirty stockings?
- I used them because I wanted you to treat me like a bad girl tonight.
- I want you to poke holes in it while you kiss my legs (that will get it going for sure).
- I want you to hold my thighs. Squeeze my calves, show me how much you want me.