An unfortunate feature of our world today is that people are less tolerant of disagreements. But disagreement can be a good and healthy thing:
1. Disagreement allows you to silently challenge and prove others wrong. – for example, when someone says, ‘you will never recover from …’ (they said it that way because it is their experience), you can discreetly (within your own mind) disagree, believing that your heart is telling you, No, I think I will get over this pain in time. Disagreement then empowers; Had they not said something we disagreed with, we may not have been equipped with this empowering motivation to prove them wrong and create our own destiny.
2. Disagreement shows us the error of our ways We all need to be corrected, and although our pride dislikes it immensely in the moment, when humility kicks in we can begin to agree that we were wrong. There, in that moment, is the heart of the character challenge and the impetus for character change and growth.
3. Disagreement highlights what we are not seeing None of us see everything. God puts others in our lives so that we can see more, but again, we need the humility to understand that we don’t see everything, that others see more truthfully than we do sometimes. This is a good thing. Others make us better than we would be alone.
Four. Accepting to disagree shows the possible maturity in a relationship – in all kinds of relationships, from marriages to friendships to work arrangements, it is an enormously empowering thing to be permitted disagree – coexist that way. In my opinion, there is nothing more toxic than not being accepted because you do not agree, as uniformity and conformity equals unity. It is suffocating to be in a relationship in which we have a deep condition. has to agree. We can be unified and disagree. The strongest unity exists in partial disagreement, because mutual respect is shown when we allow the other person to have a conflicting point of view, and yet we agree to keep the main thing as the main thing.
5. Disagreement proves the truths of perception – Yes, this is something wonderful. This is not just a postmodern phenomenon, it has always been that way. Two opposing views can be true at the same time. This highlights what torments the dualistic mind. Accept that two people who disagree have a point the way toward conflict resolution, but both of you must first begin to appreciate the truth in the other person’s perception. They both have part of the truth. What you both think has value.
Whether we agree or disagree, we are better together:
Better together, although less comfortable.
Better together, although less certain.
Better together, although less cohesion.
Better together, but more conflict.
Better together, although more complaint.
Better together, although more complicated.
Still, we are better together.