Nothing can be more upsetting than separating or divorcing the person you love, except perhaps knowing that it was a gigantic mistake. If you regret leaving or divorcing your husband, you may be able to get your husband back.
However, if you want your husband back, the first thing you need to do is be completely honest with yourself and ask yourself, “Why do I want my husband back?”
It’s normal to feel lonely and scared after a divorce or separation, but this is not a good reason to want your husband back.
And if you are jealous because he has a new woman in his life, this is not enough of a reason to want your husband back either. Because if this is the main motivator for her to try to get her husband back, once she does, she’ll be just as miserable as before, and he’ll end up leaving her again. This time for good!
And if he abused you either physically, emotionally, verbally, or sexually, don’t even think about getting your husband back until you’ve gotten the necessary help first. If he doesn’t want to get professional help, then don’t even think about getting back together with your husband. Never stay with a man who abuses you! No husband is worth it!
However, if you want to get your husband back because you really still love him and sincerely want him back in your life, then you need to take the following steps:
1. Determine exactly what was the main problem or problems in your marriage. I’ll tell you right now that they probably didn’t break up because he didn’t always put away his laundry or because he didn’t always like what you cooked. Couples may fight over petty things like these because they are frustrated and upset about something else in their marriage. It’s easier to fight nonsense bullshit like this than it is to address the real problems in a marriage.
2. Solve the real problems of your marriage. You need to have an open and honest dialogue with your husband. Ask him what he wants from your marriage and what he wants from you. And you have to be direct and tell him exactly what you want out of your marriage and what you want out of him. It’s amazing how many couples literally get married blindfolded, never directly sharing with the person they love exactly what they want and need. Share your dreams, hopes, and aspirations with your spouse. If you can’t trust your husband enough to be open and honest with him, then you really don’t have a marriage!
3. Seek professional help. If your husband also wants to get back together and make your marriage work, it might be a good idea to work with a good marriage counselor or member of the clergy. They are trained to help couples communicate and deepen the love and respect they have for each other. They can often point you in the right direction on your way to a loving and fulfilling marriage.
If you stick to the three steps above on how to get your husband back, you’re well on your way to creating a happy and rewarding marriage. But like anything worthwhile, it will require an investment of time and open, honest communication. But if you’re willing to do whatever it takes, this “second time” will be far superior to the first.
For more information, see how to get your husband back.