There are many reasons why girlfriends leave their boyfriends. In most situations, the woman clearly wants to put an end to things that are not up to her expectations. Sometimes, however, there is a slightly devious reason to break. I’m talking about a test of her commitment to her relationship. If this is the case, I’ll show you how to make sure your girlfriend is just testing you, and more importantly, how to pass that test.
When I say “try,” I’m specifically referring to the dramatic way a woman tells her boyfriend that he had better increase his level of commitment. If your girlfriend is testing you to see if you are trying to win her back, she is worried about one thing: marriage. Before proposing to her just to win her girlfriend back, let’s make sure she’s really trying it out and look at some easier ways to win her back without proposing.
When evaluating whether a breakup is really an attempt to test your commitment, there are three questions you need to answer.
You should first consider how long you have been in the relationship. Next, you need to consider the age of your girlfriend. Finally you should look at the marital status of the closest friends and relatives of him.
Let’s look at a typical example. If a couple has been together for a few years and they are both in their 20s and 30s, there is a good chance that they broke up simply to test their boyfriend’s commitment.
Considering the first two factors with the third regarding your friends and family could have an effect. If she’s a happily married career woman with divorced parents and no friends, then she probably just genuinely dumped him. If that’s the case, you should try to win your ex girlfriend back differently than if she was just testing you.
If you’re in your thirties and you’ve been together for more than a year, you may be putting it to the test no matter what your family and friends are doing with your life. A woman’s biological clock is ticking very fast at this point in her life and she can make her do some pretty crazy things, like break up with a boyfriend for no apparent reason.
Suppose your girlfriend fits the profile of a relationship tester. How do you get it back?
That’s pretty straightforward. Just give him what he wants. I don’t mean running home, getting down on your knees and yelling a marriage proposal from the sidewalk. Sit down and calmly confront his intentions to break up. Talk about a future together as a married couple, even with children, positively. If you cringe every time he brings up the subject because you just can’t afford to get married right now, he may be mistaking your attitude on the subject.
If you’re waiting for a special moment to propose, you can reassure her about your level of commitment by looking for a bigger house to start a family. then grab a calendar, pen and paper, and come up with a budget that sets it up well enough to happen at a future date you can both live with. Sometimes you just need to show her that you are thinking of a future together and her reasons for breaking up with you will quickly fade away.