Intuitively, a woman knows something must be up when a man she loves suddenly or gradually becomes unaffectionate with her. It’s a big problem because we’ve been taught from a young age that men are physical creatures and have a strong desire for sex and physical intimacy. And it’s true. men love to be physically affectionate and intimate when they are in love.
So, if your boyfriend or husband has stopped being affectionate with you for a while, all sorts of warning signs could be going off in your head. You may start to wonder:
- Is it because you are stressed?
- Is it because he’s having an affair?
- I am doing something wrong?
- Is he walking away because he doesn’t love me anymore?
- Do I need to be sexier?
- What can I do to make it more affectionate?
- etc.
While all of your thoughts are valid, the first thing to do right now is to stop worrying. And here’s why: a man feels like a failure when he’s not happy.
You see, when you feel worried about your relationship, he feels it and he feels it too. And if you’re worried, it means you’re not happy, and he ends up taking it very personally. He can understand intellectually that it’s not his fault, but he still takes it as a reflection of how successful he is in making you a happy woman. And if he feels like he’s failed you (and that he can’t make you happy), this definitely doesn’t put him in the mood to be affectionate with you. Because he probably feels really bad about himself when he worries you.
You might think that if he was just affectionate towards you, then you would cheer up. But in reality it is a matter of chicken and egg. So instead of waiting for him to start the ball rolling, just step up and stop worrying first.
So what makes a man want to be affectionate with a woman?
A man wants to be affectionate with a woman whom he finds adorable. And it’s very easy for women to get confused about this, because women often think they need to find out what she wants and what the man likes about her in order for him to find her lovable. But that is not all. Men are simple creatures. He just wants a woman who is happy, fun, upbeat, positive, upbeat, uplifting. Someone who makes you feel good.
And of course, you don’t have to be cheerful all the time. But expect you to be happy most of the time.
Wouldn’t you agree that it’s much more fun to be around a person who is naturally balanced and happy with themselves? You wouldn’t want to be around the man you love very much if he was also worried, grumpy, or angry most of the time, would you?