Are you always insecure? Is his behavior driving you completely crazy? Do you have days where he acts like he loves you but you also have days where he doesn’t seem to give a fuck about you?
Why can’t men just follow a single stream of action? Why do they always do this? Do they do it to make women more attracted to them or does it just happen naturally?
It is very easy to label your man as disloyal and manipulative when he constantly acts cold and cold. Maybe he is… and maybe he isn’t. You can’t jump to a quick conclusion before you understand the underlying reasons why men do this.
Here are some reasons that will help you better understand why men act hot and cold…
Possible Reason #1 – You are stuck in the confusing cycle of UNCERTAINTY –
If he is acting hot and cold around you and has been constantly, he is definitely not sure about his feelings towards you. He is struggling to make up his mind about you.
Several reasons can cause this:
– Maybe you think you can find someone better.
– Maybe he doesn’t see a future with you.
– Maybe he’s just not ready for commitment yet.
When a man is at war with his feelings, then he shows himself in his actions and, accordingly, acts coldly and coldly.
He will have days where he loves you more than anything else and he will act super loving and kind. And at the same time he’ll have some of those dry spells where in his world – Being around you would be the most irritating, so he’ll avoid you.
How to approach this –
The best way to approach this is to be absolutely direct. Try something like –
“Matt! It confuses me when you act really interested and caring some days, but then you act like I’m the most annoying thing in your life on other days. I’m so sorry, but I’m not sure why you act this way. I think We both need a break.”
Remember that you are not going to break up with him. You are simply telling him that you don’t agree with his current actions and that he needs to fix himself.
Some women still hang around when the man is acting hot and cold, assuming things will work themselves out one day. But the truth is, they never do. You have to do something to change the situation or else you will only find more pain.
Possible Reason #2 – You fear commitment and are afraid of having to sacrifice your FREEDOM.
Have you ever heard of that saying that goes something like… “Are men afraid of being trapped and women afraid of being abandoned?”
It’s true! Men really fear getting caught. They value their sense of freedom more than anything else on this planet.
Therefore, he is afraid that if he commits to you, he could be trapped for life and could lose what he values most, which is: FREEDOM.
If this is the case with your man, then there is not much you can do because this is his own insecurity. You will have to make efforts to deal with this.
All you can really do is give him plenty of space. When you feel that he is starting to distance himself and act hot and cold as usual, you should leave him alone.
Do not try to contact him even by phone. Let him be the first to contact you. You see, when you let him have enough space, he gets the time and freedom to make his own decisions and he’ll run right back to you.
At the same time, by giving him space and leaving him alone, you are indirectly punishing him for this behavior. Anytime a man does something you don’t agree with, it’s important to punish him in some way.
Always remember – Bad behavior when rewarded will be repeated and when punished it will be avoided.
Points to remember –
– When a man acts cold and hot, he is indirectly telling you that he is not sure about his feelings and that he really does not know where he wants things to go.
– The best solution is to let him know that you do not agree with this behavior and that you need him to work out his feelings.
– Don’t fall into the trap of thinking that he’s just going through a phase and that eventually he’ll start to like you again and he won’t send you mixed signals. Unless you go out of your way to let him know that you’re not okay with it. She won’t stop doing it.