So she left you. It hurts, it itches, it’s the most crushing feeling in the world. You spend hours and hours telling her how much you love her. How much she means to you, and it only takes a few seconds for her to tell you that she’s not interested anymore. She is done with the relationship and is moving on.
So why the hell is he still texting you?
When an ex girlfriend is still texting you after the breakup, there is a definite reason behind it. Actually, there are several. Some of them are good, some of them are bad, but all of them can be used as indicators of where she is mentally and emotionally.
And if you want to get it back? You will need to know exactly what these texts mean and how to handle each of them correctly.
Reasons Why Your Ex Girlfriend Still Texts You
Let’s get one thing straight: it’s always hard to let go. Even if she was the one who broke things off, you and your girlfriend shared time together. You have memories, you share special feelings that still exist. Nothing can change that except TIME.
For this reason, time is certainly of the essence. The longer you wait before acting, the further your ex girlfriend will go. Mentally and emotionally, she will pull away from her if you don’t do something to keep her interested, which is why moving quickly and acting right is so vital to making her want you back.
Getting back to texting…an ex who texts you is still thinking about you. This is undeniable, but don’t get too excited yet. There is no guarantee that she is interested, or even thinking about wanting you back.
However, your ex can’t bury his feelings so quickly. Those feelings are still there, and there are specific reconnection techniques you can learn to bring those feelings back to the surface. This is one of the last, and most important, steps to recover it.
So yeah, it’s good that he’s texting you. But should you text him? Well… that’s where things get tricky…
What to do when your ex girlfriend texts you
An ex who keeps texting after the breakup is leaning on their old relationship for support. She wants you to be “there” (in case she needs you), but not THERE (romantically). This doesn’t do you any good, but it benefits her for several reasons:
- She has the consolation of continuing to talk to you
- By replying to her texts, she feels confident that you’re still interested.
- Your ex girlfriend knows exactly where you are (i.e. she’s not going anywhere)
All these things give him strength. They give you willpower. Worst of all, they give you the confidence to go through with the breakup.
This is the complete opposite of what you want. After a girl breaks up with you, her first priority is to make sure that her decision was the right one. She will try to justify that decision to herself, her friends, and sometimes her family. In short, she wants to know that she DID THE RIGHT THING.
Seeing how much you still like her and talking to you through text messages, she is ratifying that decision. The more you chase her by replying to her text messages, the easier it will be for her to run. Because? Because she knows SHE GOT YOU. She can go out, see other people, and eventually walk away…all with the confidence of knowing you’re a fallback plan in case something goes wrong.
“But I don’t mind being her plan B. I can wait for her…”
That’s what you’re thinking, right? Is this what you told him?
Well forget that. That kind of thinking is foolish and desperate, at a critical time where you need to be as strong and Alpha as possible.
The best thing to do when texting your ex
Do you want to know what is the best thing to do when an ex girlfriend texts you? Ignore her completely. Yes, I know you want her back. And yes, I know that ignoring that text is probably the hardest thing you’ve ever done. But believe me, answering her is only justifying her decision to stay apart.
He has pushed you away, but he wants to keep you at a distance. She wants the comfort of realizing that she can win you back at any moment, but with that knowledge comes the authority to snap out of it and give another guy another chance.
There are 12 irreversible mistakes people make when trying to get an ex back. Texting with your ex is one of them. Learn what the rest of them are, because the sooner you can avoid making these mistakes, the faster you can put your girl back in your arms.