Never become emotionally attached to uncertain situations
One of the biggest mistakes men make is thinking that a woman they just met, that they are talking to, is a sure thing. He doesn’t know this woman’s motives or if she’s worth it.
Men have put themselves in bad situations because they thought a woman was a sure thing, but she had ulterior motives. It may seem that things are going great, but the woman could simply be seeking attention. She may be flirting with you at the club, but she’s just trying to make her boyfriend jealous, who is standing a few feet away watching the whole interaction. When she gets what she wants, she’ll leave you there looking confused when she doesn’t come home with you.
Being stuck on a woman (who you’re not even in a relationship with) is a recipe for disaster.
This happens to men in the friend zone. They will build this friendship, hoping it will develop into a romantic relationship. Unfortunately, this girl isn’t interested because she has her eyes on other men that she doesn’t consider her friends. These men will be stuck on this girl and will think that being “the one who is always there for her” will turn that friendship into a sexual relationship.
If you want to please women, you have to operate from a position of power. These men that she dates, she’s interested in them for a reason. There’s something about these men that turns her on and it’s not because they listen to all her problems.
This doesn’t mean you can’t listen to a woman and comfort her, but it should be because you care about her, not to feign interest just to get in her pants. Women are very intuitive and know that this is what he really wants to do, but they are too scared to let him know that this is what he really wants, so she will use this to her advantage and treat him as a shoulder to cry on when other men who really interest her do not treat her in a special way.
Why you shouldn’t confess your love for the person you like like they do in the movies
Have you ever seen those movies of the man who had a crush on this girl since they were in third grade and he confesses his love to her in a big, dramatic way? Just because women like the idea of this happening, they don’t want to be the girl this is happening to.
Because?
You have fantasy and reality.
Women like the IDEA of a man who confesses his love to her and makes her feel special. The reality is that women are very attracted to men who ignore them.
Think of the IDEA of having 7 girlfriends (not “friends with benefits”) for each day of the week. This sounds like a big fantasy, but the reality is that you would get burned out and have a hard time keeping these 7 girls happy.
A man who confesses his love for a woman in a dramatic way has transferred power from him to her. Yes, you can be affectionate with your girlfriend or wife, but a woman with whom you have not established a romantic relationship may fearfully walk away from such a dramatic situation.
The men who get the girl usually keep things simple and allow her to have all those emotions churning in herself.
Are you wearing your heart on your sleeve?
“I think this is it!”
Have you ever said that about every woman you meet? When a man expects fireworks, it’s because he has his heart on his sleeve. Men who are successful with women know and understand that it is all about controlling their emotions rather than being at the mercy of them.
“Why would you say that?”
Women are very emotional. They need men to keep that emotional energy grounded. This is why many men who are overly emotional, even if they are “traditionally attractive”, turn women away. Women are turned on by men who can connect with her emotionally, but are not victims of their emotions.
sometimes rejection is a good thing
This is not something you want to hear right after you’ve been rejected by a woman you’re really attracted to. However, if you ask yourself, why did you like that woman in the first place?
Was it because she was pretty?
Was it because she had a nice body?
Was he a nice person or did you just see how good he looked on the outside?
Once you take away her looks and how much you want to sleep with her, was it so bad to get rejected after all?
Do not expect fireworks, but you want to get a result
Sometimes those results won’t be to your liking, but at least you know where you stand with regard to this specific woman. The sooner you know, the better. I’m not saying that both of you can’t start building a relationship over time, but you will know when you focus on getting a result than waiting for fireworks.
Let’s say you tell a woman that you want to go out with her. She rejects you and says that you are not her type (she is very direct. Most women are not that direct). At least you’re not torturing yourself with uncertainty. If you get rejected, at least you know it’s time to move on.
Even the most handsome and charismatic men don’t get the girl
If you’re one of those guys who thinks you’re too ugly to get attractive women, think again. Even the most attractive men are turned down and can even be passed over for men who look like swamp creatures by general standards.
It’s not how you look, but how you make a woman feel. The point of this is to make her feel all of these emotions for you. When you can control your emotions and how you interact with women, you will start to notice that more and more women are attracted to you. Your problem will be which one you will choose!