Due to fears that many Chinese women marry simply for better economic status or a desire to leave their country, I decided to write this article. Not many people have the benefit and perspective that comes from living in China and dating a very broad cross-section of women here. In fact, even many years before in my own country I had a strong connection to the Chinese community, and as a result, I also dated many Chinese women; however, even with all my experience and understanding of Chinese culture, I still ‘couldn’t see the forest for the trees’.
First of all, let me tell you this, and it’s important for you to know: Chinese women don’t express themselves in the same way that Western women would. Likewise, many clues and signs that you can interpret as a sign that a woman’s feelings are true, are simply a cultural affectation based on behavior patterns that are conditioned to them from a very young age; Basically, they are taught to behave in a particular way in order to find a husband. When they are adults, they don’t really know that they are doing this, let alone in the case of mainland Chinese women, that there are actually women in the world who ‘don’t’ do this!
So how can we know if a Chinese woman really loves you? because I can assure you that love in Chinese culture is not a prerequisite in marriage. However, this should not be an obstacle for you as there are an incredible number of Chinese women who are genuine, loving and of course exceptionally attractive. Most Chinese people consider love as an action, as if they do some kind of loving action, then they can honestly say they ‘love’ you (at least within Chinese culture they can, and few consider this to be an action). form of deception). Let’s take a look at some real signs that a Chinese woman really has deep feelings for you.
One thing that can really stand out when you are in a relationship with a Chinese woman that can show you that her feelings run deeper than normal is if she starts to show concern for your health. In Chinese culture, a Chinese woman should openly show concern for the physical health of her husband or boyfriend, even going as far as taking care of him when he’s sick (and I don’t mean just buying him a box of Alka-Seltzer). If, even in the early stages of courtship, she shows concern for your health verbally or otherwise, then she may be trying to show you that her feelings run deeper than usual. Take note of this.
Another big sign that your girlfriend or prospective Chinese girlfriends’ feelings are true, and that she is possibly deeply in love with you, is jealousy. Western women for the most part keep their cool when they’re jealous, but most Chinese women just can’t and don’t see the point in doing so. Repressing the emotion of jealousy to any degree is generally associated with many native English-speaking countries; however, it is not part of the Chinese national character. Every time she sees flashes of jealousy in her partner, then she’ll know she’s hooked!